SISSY: When friends judge who you date, aren’t they also judging you?
For her monthly column on Gay Times Magazine, P. Eldridge reflects on friendship’s watchful eye, the scrutiny of trans love, and the right to choose – even imperfectly.
Welcome back to SISSY, divas.
In this second descent into the tangled circuits of shame, desire, and girlhood’s soft underbelly, i’m asking: what happens when your friends side-eye your latest date? And in that glance are they, maybe, side-eyeing you too? 🙄😳😲
There’s something intimate, almost brutal, about the politics of who we choose. Every hand we hold is a kind of mirror, every kiss an invitation for scrutiny. I’m tracing how class, respectability, embarrassment, and wanting get braided together; and how transness (mine, maybe yours) scrapes at the edges of what’s “acceptable,” what’s “aspirational,” what’s “hot.” 🔥🧨
What happens when we desire someone who doesn’t fit the feed? When our lovers aren’t profile-pic compatible with our curated selves? When attraction isn’t legible; or, worse, isn’t inspirational? 🤭💌
This column isn’t here to tidy that mess. it’s here to touch it. to name it. to ask: what if we weren’t afraid to choose wrong? 💋🔪
Forever yours in mayhem, the original SISSY,
LET ME CHOOSE WRONG!
p. 💙🌀
ttyl and tell me what you think, (sns if this offends xoxoxoxo) 😛😘 read the full at gay times magazine now 🕸️ i’ll drop the link on bio bby 🤤
ps. eternal thanks to the incomparable @meganhwallace (of
) + angels over @gaytimes for letting me smear gloss across the mirror 💄🕷️WRITTEN BY: P. ELDRIDGE
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